The Confessions Thread

[gnomethrone]

Gotta buck up buckaroo!

You moved to the cold. I was born in it, etc...

Also, text me sometime. We should hang again, grab a beer, see a gig or something (not this week, extended fam in town). I finally got a new phone and can text back.

Ha for sure dude. I made the mistake of going to hawaii for a week at the very beginning of winter instead of halfway thru or at the end. Rookie maneuver lol. I'll hit you up for sure. Anything cool going on for new years eve?

[Chankgeez]

Anything cool going on for new years eve?

I love you, gnomethrone, but…

Rookie maneuver lol.

[gnomethrone]

Ha, which part? Trying to keep up with the booze intake of wisconsin folk on a drinking holiday? Leaving my electric blanket to go out into the frozen wastes at all?

[Chankgeez]

Probably all of it? Especially looking for something to do on NYE though.

Nothing wrong w/ drinking on holidays or going out when it's frozen.

NYE is the one night all year that people who don't go any other night of the year actually go out.

I like low-key plans on occasions such as those.

[gnomethrone]

ah, gotcha. yeah i'm more of a week night sketchy metal show kinda dude than a NYE nightclub goer but this year mrs gnomethrone is working till 3 am and I feel the urge to play a round of "don't puke in the uber". Might go watch this local lady at a little bar: http://www.abbyjeanne.com/music/

[Chankgeez]

Yeah, goin' out on week nights always rules over the weekends. Weekend warriors we are not.

Seems like you've got a good plan.

[BetterOffShred]

I took Friday off to sleep in and play guitar. Suck on it world.

[waltdogg]

the whole time i was on the plane today i was hoping we'd just fucking crash. life is shit. why am i here? i'm literally living paycheck to paycheck and show to show. i fucking hate it. i don't get along with my father anymore. fuck it all. i've been trying for years by going to psychiatrists and therapist to make it work. but my parents are fucking lost to me. oh, and my phone got destroyed today. so that was a nice little cherry on top of everything. hopefully i can just get the screen replaced but if not. my list of tattoo ideas, lyrcis, poems, and a lot of contacts i'd like to not lose will all be gone. so basically fuck me. fuck life.

i was considering putting this in the spite thread. but i consider my morbid fantasies and failures as confessions.

[Invisible Man]

Yo Walt: our lives are probably pretty different, but many of these things describe mine, too (paycheck-to-paycheck, deep family scars, daily grind sharpening you to a point rather than smoothing you out). I don’t presume to have advice, but finding some good and meaningful relationships or something to work for (not necessarily ‘toward’) makes those things survivable for some people.

I only know what I know (very very little), but I gave up on treating my happiness as the goal of my life and am better for it. I think you’ve posted about your parents before, and that stuff can duck a person up permanently. With you, there. So I started thinking about how I want to look back at my life when it’s ending, and what I’ll be proud of or hope to have accomplished. And now I spend 95% on those things and only 5% on doing lazy/frivolous/personal stuff. It’s possible to find purpose in labor rather than it being a bullshit slog to just get by.

Anyway: all I’m trying to say is that there is no ‘better.’ This is your life, for better or worse, and the only thing to do is to squeeze out every drop of joy and to create as many of those moments for everyone else as you can before you kick it. Most therapists will keep asking you to ‘turn in’ and work on your shit. I never go because I think that’s fucking dumb. It reduces the swelling of my problems to go and see others’. Not gonna say more, because I think ‘good work’ loses all value the second you advertise it, but my opinion is that thinking of ourselves constantly is a modern disease that’s risen to the level of epidemic.

The stuff you post resonates hard with me—I’m prone to the same issues. Just describing my way out, which may not be for you.

[Paul_C]

I was going to confess that I'm worried that I have enough pedals, but that seems a little lame after the last two posts.

Hopefully, even if the phone isn't fixable, the info on it can still be removed from it ? I'd have thought there ought to be someway, but I'm certainly no expert.

I've had family issues (my sister has decided to cut off all contact with the rest of the family, but still talks to me if I bother to make contact - I was visiting my Dad the other day and thought I saw her, but TBH I really can't be arsed to listen to her moaning any more, so I didn't make the effort to catch up with her) and this year I've had relationship woes that have made me feel the lowest I've ever felt.

The only thing I know for certain through all this is that you cannot change how other people behave or feel, so if that means that walking away is the best thing you can do for your own health and happiness, the sooner you do it the better.

It won't make you happy, but it will remove something that's making you miserable and which you cannot do anything about. Then, once time has passed, you might be able to look at things a little more clearly and either make contact or not - you don't have to carry anyone or their negativity around your whole life.

I was lucky enough to have found something that helps me massively, which has been buying a bunch of pedals and an amp and making amusing and sometimes musical noises with them.

Maybe 2018 is the year we all felt a little better about ourselves - who's say it won't be ?

[waltdogg]

the fucked thing is i know all of this stuff. i'm a fool, for all my self improvement. i can't even mend the ties with my family. and the other half the time i just wanna destroy everything i see.

[tremolo3]

I'm happy to see this year's Coachella lineup.

[snipelfritz]

ah, gotcha. yeah i'm more of a week night sketchy metal show kinda dude than a NYE nightclub goer but this year mrs gnomethrone is working till 3 am and I feel the urge to play a round of "don't puke in the uber". Might go watch this local lady at a little bar: http://www.abbyjeanne.com/music/

soz, I missed your post earlier. I just kinda took it easy with some folks on NYE, then went out later when I was already pretty plastered. Abby Jean is pretty good, nothing super interesting sonically, but solid. Mark, the bassist in her band, is a nice dude.

My band is playing a show on the 13th at Linnemans. It's also my birthday, so I'll probably get hecking drunko.

[Chankgeez]

Would to see some Šarūnas Bartas filmed footage of the Ball family in Lithuania.

[$harkToootth]

Is there a nice way to tell someone you don't like them or appreciate their friendship but without meaning offense?
Like "Nothing against you but, I would strongly prefer if you didn't speak to me anymore."
I'm not trying to fault the person's character or anything...I just "personally" don't like them...

CONTEXT: "Friend" from college trying to reconnect with another buddy and myself. We're both not fans of the first person. He sent us both a text in a group chat. I promptly text my buddy "Jesus Christ..."