AngryGoldfish wrote:Talking about everything, even the little things, is paramount to a successful marriage, because all those little things make up a rather large and lasting picture. For instance, will the man expect the woman to take the pill after they're married? If so, does he accept that she may also put on weight and have her emotions tampered with, because that's what those little bastards do? This is something many couples are afraid to discuss, but it's crucial, in my opinion.
I've grown up with Jehovah's Witness, with the knowledge and expectation, along with a highly-develop patience, that one day they may meet someone they wanna sleep with, but who they won't be able to due to their beliefs. Of course, I have no qualms with other people and their personal habits, but for me and for many others it's an important lifestyle choice. You learn to act patiently and to treat each other with a lot of respect and space. I'm sure you have as well.
Yeah dude, most definitely. We'd been dating for 3 years before we made the choice to take it to the next level, and there was a LOT of discussion about it prior to. Luckily, she's been taking the pill for about a year now, so we have both become accustomed to the slight mood swings and the weight gain. But instead of kind of muddling around about the weight gain (I've gained weight as well, I walked everywhere in college and ate a meal a day, now I'm home with a desk job that I drive to and eat 3 healthy meals a day, it was inevitable) - we're being proactive about it and motivating each other to exercise and move and walk around to combat it. She's got the determination to fit into her dress which was just altered (taken in, at that!), and I've got the motivation to be the weight that I was in college, I felt very healthy then.
We talk about anything and everything and I love it. And the support is there. And the forgiveness is there. In all honesty, outside of the forum I talk to about 7 people- my lady, Skip, Sonny, my mom, my dad, and my future inlaws, and as such I talk to her more than anyone else. It's just nice to be able to discuss things with someone and have viable discussions, you know?
RE wedding size: We've got about 120 as a headcount right now, but we are waiting for RSVP cards to come in. I think that we will probably see around 100 at the wedding taking place at her church. We really would be happy with about 20 people there though...
We're thinking 40 people max.
