The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[Fuzzy Fred]

my parents are talking about getting a divorce, and i don't know how to cope.

[Gozu]

asked my GF to book a hotel room, she didn't react, never told me she booked them so 3 days later i say fuck it and do it myself. only to get an angry 'I already booked it!'

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[dubkitty]

I fucking hate the "tough guy" persona.

me too. always have. i've always associated it with the type of moronic assholes who picked on me at public school, and with macho stupidity. one thing that bothered me about my erstwhile roommate is that though he personally couldn't pull it off, he was heavily into humorless, male-pattern-boldness musical artists--old blues of a particularly unedifying sort, Paul Rodgers, Paul Weller--whose A-to-B emotional range and "I Am...I Said" attitude drive me up the walls even when i really like the musical content.

of course, much of my hatred of the type is probably due to the fact that i'm so far from the type, and have never been able to compete.

[Achtane]

EATING INTO THE MICROPHONE
STOP FUCKING EATING INTO THE MICROPHONE
WHEN I HEAR YOU EATING I WANT TO STRANGLE YOU

[warwick.hoy]

my parents are talking about getting a divorce, and i don't know how to cope.

Shitty,...that's no fun,....you have my empathy.

Mine separated my senior year of high school,.....officially divorced after I graduated.

I got a lot of sympathy from my classmates (I went to a Catholic school,....I could have probably used it to my advantage to pull pussy but I was clueless back then) and faculty (I went from about 3 suspensions/nearly getting kicked out of school a year to a big ole goose egg even though I was skipping all sorts of classes my senior year but still managing to graduate with a C average). Most of the kids I went to school with had families that were still together,...but that doesn't necassarily mean that they were functional.

It was an adjustment for sure,...but once I accepted that there was nothing I could do about it I was able to move on with my life. It sucked more for my mom than it did for my dad since she was not in any position to be single in the real world.

For me,...I was a happy kid,...I tried to fuck my life up right after high school, with all kinds of drugs and stupidity...and I think some people would have blamed that on coming from a "broken home",...but again,...I was just clueless and selfish back then and wasn't given any survival/real world skills from my parents. I blame it more on being sheltered by both my parents rather than them separating/divorcing.

Now that I'm an "adult" I don't really give a shit. My parents probably have their regrets,....but they are both equipped to handle themselves in today's world. My dad is a good man and my mom is a good woman. My dad and I have a very business like relationship and that's fine with me. He has helped me in pinches when I was younger, he is still family and we still communicate frequently,....but we aren't huge parts of each others lives.

That said,...I took the experience and used it to formulate what is important to me in a relationship and made the decision to marry my wife with the understanding that relationships and people aren't disposable and that marriages require bonding and at times hard work. I know that divorce is never going to be in our future. That helps to alleviate the fear that I'll just turn out like my dad which essentially turned out to be his dissatisfaction with his choices and a requirement to change things in order for him to be happy. For me I place an importance on making your own happiness and not requiring other people to be the source of it. It might be easy for me to say since I feel like I'm pretty even tempered and don't have any mental issues,....but happiness is a choice,...

[dubkitty]

perhaps not so much a choice as something you have to work at creating on a continuing basis, both in one's primary relationship and in general. it doesn't just fall off the happiness truck and roll into your yard.

[warwick.hoy]

I'm just saying that if you try too hard you may not find it or the opposite will manifest itself in the form of dissatisfaction or constant let down.

I just prefer it "to be"; if that makes any sense (I can't think of any good analogy, metaphor or definition of happiness). I'm not saying that I don't have problems or that I'm never sad,...but in general,...I've made the conscious effort to be happy,...not to expect stuff or people to provide it for me. I just choose to be happy because I prefer it than being pissed off or dissatisfied all the time.

[snipelfritz]

I fucking hate the "tough guy" persona.

me too. always have. i've always associated it with the type of moronic assholes who picked on me at public school, and with macho stupidity. one thing that bothered me about my erstwhile roommate is that though he personally couldn't pull it off, he was heavily into humorless, male-pattern-boldness musical artists--old blues of a particularly unedifying sort, Paul Rodgers, Paul Weller--whose A-to-B emotional range and "I Am...I Said" attitude drive me up the walls even when i really like the musical content.

of course, much of my hatred of the type is probably due to the fact that i'm so far from the type, and have never been able to compete.

I just am in denial that those types even exist. If somebody acts like that around me I can't take them seriously. Partly because I tend to have dry sense of humor and am sarcastic a lot.

EDITUPDATE I'm chafing so fucking bad.

[dubkitty]

come on, i want at least a little love for "male-pattern-boldness"...i thought it was funny, at least.

[Achtane]

Oh god there is a Kramer aluminum-necked bass on Craigslist in mint condition for $800 and I have no moneys.
Really, CL? You really choose this time to have all the cool shit?

[dubkitty]

SO MUCH GEAR FOR SALE, AND ME SO OUT OF WORK.

[Achtane]

From this moment on...I'm saving it all for gear.
Well, I'll start saving when I get a job.

[DarkAxel]

my parents are talking about getting a divorce, and i don't know how to cope.

know that feel bro except i was a bit younger and it was worse for me... it sure can all seem stupid and overwhelming, but just hold on tight

and feel free to write here /PM anytime

[IEatCats]

I don't have any friends that are free today, so it looks like I'm missing the third night of my girlfriend's last high school musical. I feel like such a loser, because I don't have a car, or any friends that are free.

[spacelordmother]

You know how when you're going to have a killer week at work and the sense of impending doom totally ruins your weekend? Fuck.

Also: hungover. DAMMIT.