The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[Chaosmic]

I appreciate the kind words snipelfritz, it means a lot considering you don't even know me. I'm attracted to the honesty, sarcasm, humor and kindness of people on ILF.

I agree, bob the rob0t, better living through fuzz indeed! I've definitely been spending more time on here now that I have it on my hands.

Thanks bigchiefbc.....I recognize you from TB and I appreciate your reply.

Cheers to you all!

[ashdown]

why is there such a fine line between awesome roommates and shit headed roommates?

i wish you luck chaosimc. better living through fuzz indeed

[DarkAxel]

My wife of 7 years (who I've been with for nearly 12) has been cheating on me with one of my closest friends who also happens to have been the singer in my last 2 bands. I just recently found out about all of this and I'm now going through a divorce. He's also a married man with 2 young children. Luckily, my wife and I don't have any kids.

I was totally in love with her and saw myself having kids, growing old and dying with her....and now I'm going through the pain of falling out of love with someone who's been my constant companion for nearly 12 of my 30 years on this earth.

Now I've got no wife, no job, no house and no band. I had no real option other than to leave my beloved city of Raleigh and move back in with my parents for the first time since before I graduated high school in '99.

The funny thing is, I have ZERO regrets and wouldn't change a thing. All of this has taught me a lot about myself and who my real friends are. I have a newfound sense of purpose and look forward to getting a new band together and starting my life over. I also look forward to meeting someone new someday. Thank you for having read this if you actually did.....this is what this thread is for isn't it?

Oof. That's pretty heavy man. It sounds like you're moving in the right direction with the right attitude though.

yeah, that's what i was going to post... way to go, man and if you need, just write here... this is what this thread is exactly for

[phantasmagorovich]

My wife of 7 years (who I've been with for nearly 12) has been cheating on me with one of my closest friends who also happens to have been the singer in my last 2 bands. I just recently found out about all of this and I'm now going through a divorce. He's also a married man with 2 young children. Luckily, my wife and I don't have any kids.

I was totally in love with her and saw myself having kids, growing old and dying with her....and now I'm going through the pain of falling out of love with someone who's been my constant companion for nearly 12 of my 30 years on this earth.

Now I've got no wife, no job, no house and no band. I had no real option other than to leave my beloved city of Raleigh and move back in with my parents for the first time since before I graduated high school in '99.

The funny thing is, I have ZERO regrets and wouldn't change a thing. All of this has taught me a lot about myself and who my real friends are. I have a newfound sense of purpose and look forward to getting a new band together and starting my life over. I also look forward to meeting someone new someday. Thank you for having read this if you actually did.....this is what this thread is for isn't it?

Ouch, dude! Good for you that you don't have children, that makes everything so much more complicated because you actually have to get along with the mother of your children. Since there are none, you are definitely doing the right thing, looking forward, moving forward (and burning all the bridges you've crossed on your way). Time to get a new life, which is awesome in a way, right?



Basically if you go back in this thread you will see that many of us have their similar loads to carry. We are like the sympathetic choir of broken relationships and fuzz.

[D.o.S.]

That situation is no bueno indeed.

Fuzzy vibes your way, homeskillet.

[dubkitty]

yeah, if you read back a bit you'll see that there's been a lot of this going around. having just had my partner of 13 years bail in September, i'm impressed with your forward thinking. i kind of vacillate between being excited about what i can get to do next and being miserable about what i've lost and how shitty my ex has been. i'm working on having this week be more "excited," because last week, after i had to call the cops out on her, was mostly "miserable."

it's definitely a learning experience. if you're a songwriter, you'll certainly have material now. i have a bunch of stuff with lyrics coming in, none of which is bitter you-bitch screeds or please-come-back ballads...it's all reflective stuff.

[Chaosmic]

ashdown, DarkAxel, phantasmagorovich, maz91379, D.o.S., dubkitty......

I appreciate all your support....it means a lot to have total strangers take the time to read and reply to my post. It means more to me than you could possibly know, though I'm sure others have done the same for all of you at some point in your lives. It's strange how when life throws something at you that makes you want to distrust and see the world as cold and ugly, there's others there that step up and help you see that there's still a fundamental goodness that exists in people. Hardship is but one of the things that makes life interesting and worth living. Your attitude and outlook determines your experience in this life and sometimes it takes moments of weakness to realize the strength within and around you.

@maz91379: yes, indeed I do have facial hair. At one point I had a goatee that was like a foot long. Now it's much shorter but still rockin' it for sure.

@dubkitty: These types of experiences definitely contribute to inspiration and the creative spark. Sounds like you're on the right path as well with the introspecitive approach (lyrically speaking). It's so easy to give in to your ego or pride and want to blame others. It takes a bigger person to go within and find truth and peace where lies, anger and depression have dwelled.

@phantasmagorovich: It is awesome to get to start over. Especially since I've been existing in a certain pattern for so many years. The future's always unwritten and everything happens for a reason. I'm grateful we don't have children.....even though it's hard to let go of the person who you saw as the mother of your unborn....

Again, I really appreciate everyone chiming in with their support. I hope to be able to do the same for you and others when the time comes. My love of fuzz and life continues to grow and I look forward to continuing to be a part of this awesome community of like-minds. Cheers everybody!

[snipelfritz]

I had to sell the drumset, and I'm still not sure how I'll be able to pay for tuition.

[01010111]

I just made a cup of coffe using those coffee crystal things and when I started putting the coffee in the water the whole cup erupted like a science fair volcano

[dubkitty]

heated the water in the microwave, eh?

[01010111]

Yep, when I put the first spoonful of coffee stuff in nearly all the water boiled out. My only guess was that the water was super heated, and when I put the coffee in it set off some kind of chain reaction sending diluted coffee water everywhere. Maybe I should get a coffee maker

[jfrey]

Yep, when I put the first spoonful of coffee stuff in nearly all the water boiled out. My only guess was that the water was super heated, and when I put the coffee in it set off some kind of chain reaction sending diluted coffee water everywhere. Maybe I should get a coffee maker

How long did you have the water in there? That usually doesn't happen unless you're using distilled water, or you have it heating for a lot longer than needed.

[the Life Aquatic]

i need to stop drinking so much

[alexa.]

you can actually heat water up to 120 °C and it won't evaporate if you don't present a particle that would break the balance, so to say.

[01010111]

How long did you have the water in there? That usually doesn't happen unless you're using distilled water, or you have it heating for a lot longer than needed.

I set the microwave for 2.20 which is usually long enough to get the water boiling but for some reason it wasn't. Added the coffee and FOOM. Didn't explode but it did come boiling violently out of the cup. It's not distilled water and it's not fluoridated/chlorinated or treated in anyway (I work on the local water system).

I always thought that superheated water was extremely volatile, so I'm not sure why it didn't boil out when I pulled the cup out of the microwave. Maybe there was something in the coffee that was set to react with the water to mix it up better, but that has never happened to me before.