The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[alexa.]

time won't solve a thing. either you deal with it or you don't.
I'm kinda hardcore about that.

If something's simple, it's usually missing the point.

If something's simple, it doesn't mean the process that got you the simple thing, is simple, lol

OT: fuckin' exams

[snipelfritz]

Damn my inability to initiate small talk with cute girls.

[jfrey]

Damn my inability to initiate small talk with cute girls.

You need to not care about it, and not try. If you care too much about it, you're going to be trying, and if it looks like you're trying, you aren't going to get anywhere.

[theavondon]

Damn my inability to initiate small talk with cute girls.

You need to not care about it, and not try. If you care too much about it, you're going to be trying, and if it looks like you're trying, you aren't going to get anywhere.

Also, don't think about boners.

[warwick.hoy]

My approach has always been,..."hey, you wanna fuck?" Maybe not in such terse words and you win some,...you lose some, but you'd be surprised that often times; with the right girl, the direct approach works. Girls don't like it when you're intentions are unclear. Being gentlemanly in your approach can soften the blow.

Let's face it,...small talk and ice breaking is just beating around the bush and a waste of time. Sometimes a woman just wants to feel like a woman. Let her know you find her attractive and you would find her even more attractive without any clothes on. To quote a famous TBer,...let her also know that you will quickly loose interest the longer those clothes stay on. Women love attention and will do anything to get it,...threaten to take it away and they may go so far as to remove their clothing in order to regain that attention.

Of course some girls are prudes so on the direct approach,...expect to get shot down (maybe they get all the attention they need elsewhere),...expect to creep some chicks out (or become a good gauge at the whorishness of teh wimminz), but at least you know where you stand and to be honest,...if you've reached the friend zone,...you can give up all hope of anything other than the slim chance that there might be a glimmer of hope for a sympathy fuck, sometime,...maybe in a year; after lots of hugging and crying.

I will recommend baggin it up if you take this approach.

I also need to point out that this is shaggin advice,...not relationship advice,...a relationship is a whole different beast that involves emotions and communication and problem solving and real friendship and whole bunch of other shit.

[/maki advice thread]

[dubkitty]

While I'm sure it's different for you and I; I've been through it and you have a hard time knowing what to do next,...dealing with starting over and quieting that internal dialogue inside your head.

Just to get some peace; I quieted that dialogue with a half rack of PBR a night for a few months. I'm glad that didn't catch on. After a while I just dealt with it and moved on. Easy to say,...hard to do.

one good fortune of mine--if you can call it that--is that since i come from a long line of alcoholics, i don't process alcohol well, don't enjoy it, and it feels like poison in my system. this keeps me from getting to the typical round of alcoholic behavioral problems, because i get sick before i can get that drunk since i never developed a tolerance for the stuff. i'll literally be on my hands and knees puking on the floor before i could pick fights or be a blackout drunk. i avoid all physically addictive drugs like the plague for the same reason; if i'm susceptible to one...

finding peace. once in awhile it appears for a moment here or there. usually when i'm lying in bed and i can manage to clear the clouds of thought from my mind and just be me, huddled under the Hello Kitty blanket Kimmie brought me back from her trip earlier in the summer with my best cat cuddled up against my legs, and push it all out of my head and just let the whistling in my ears and the sound of the creek running outside be the only things i hear. i so wish there was something--anything--i could do to make things different. but at least for now all that i can do is wait and see if anything changes with her, and try to do what i can to keep my home and life going in the meantime.

[warwick.hoy]

That's good,...DK,...sounds almost like a meditation that you have for yourself. Knowing the Merkaba meditation back then would have been extremely helpful,...but I wasn't exposed to that until after I met my wife.

To be honest that hello kitty blanket and any other gift I would have received from a former LTR relation would have gone into the fire in an effort to erase any physical memory and move on. To be fair I still have the real-ish (not PVC but also not made by Aboriginal Australian Peoples) didgeridoo that the LTR ex gave me but I when all is said and done I harbor no ill will towards her.

[jfrey]

Not that I'm suggesting this as a solution for problems, but something I find extremely peace-inducing is sitting outside late at night, after the stars are up - if you have water nearby or like a dock especially that's a perfect location (that creek sounds good too) - and listen to the album Constellations by Balmorhea.

[Grrface]

Damn my inability to initiate small talk with cute girls.

You need to not care about it, and not try. If you care too much about it, you're going to be trying, and if it looks like you're trying, you aren't going to get anywhere.

It wasn't until I quit giving a crap that girls started noticing me again after I started college. One of those girls that noticed is now my wife, so

[dubkitty]

well, i'm not burning down piles of stuff at this point. if there's an honest chance at a real reconciliation i'd try. there's a tremendous amount of anger and resentment that's built up over the years, but i'm not going to say "no, never" beause she's been gone for five days. if she was to call me up and say "can we talk?" in an open way i would be the happiest person alive. despite the many things i've been unhappy with about her, i do dearly love her.

[warwick.hoy]

Yeah,...that will add to the uncertainty and the lack of peace of mind, holding out hope that there can be reconciliation. Rehearsing what you would say to her.

In a way that internal dialogue is a good thing,...helps you to figure out who you are,...what you are looking for in a relationship,...but sometimes you just want to fall asleep; which is why I turned to akyhol. Six years later I look back at those months and shake my head; realizing that that was not who I want to be.

As far as reconciliation I wish you the best DK. For me there was no reconciliation (the Ex and I are cordial and friendly with one another if we encounter each other but I don't seek out her friendship,...although I do miss that quite a bit,...she is genuinely a good person). Six years later and it's no surprise considering we were both young when we got together,...we were both experiencing our first relationship not to mention it was the first sort of intimacy for her and only the second for me. I certainly believed that we would last forever at the time,...but when you are in your early 20's you really don't know shit and an eventual change is inevitable.

Not trying to piss on your hopes cause as I said,...there are obvious differences between your situation and mine. At the moment I have an awesome wife who I wouldn't change a thing and a enough life lessons under my belt to have a good idea and a high comfort level of who I am. If that's the best thing that you can glean from your relationship with Kim,...then I would say that the 13 years (IIRC) of your life you gave were not in vain.

[grindonomicon]

Where can I get a finished Mustang/DuoDonic/Musicmaster neck that won't break my bank?

Squier duo sonic neck?

Squier Jagmaster neck if u want rosewood board? Sq Jagmaster's are more available / cheaper used too. Saw one on the regional cl for $100 last month, and I don't think GC gets more than $150 for them used...

There's a Jagmaster neck on eBay but it's 25.5. Crap.

25.5" Vistas = made for @ 2 years
24" Jagmasters = 2 years as vistas, plus 6+ years as jmII

of course you find the Strat scale model.

check cl. There's four 24" scale within 90-100 minutes here, all reasonable price. And one 25.5" model. should have snagged that $100 one just to flip, but I don't like Strat trem-bridges and bought... wait for it. fuzz pedals.

[Fuzzy Fred]

so I'm not sure if it should go under this thread, but FUCK I did soundcheck and there were like 10 people there already and it was DEAD SILENT

I feel really awkward up on stage as it is, but throw in a silent audience, and I'm probably gonna start crying...

[ashdown]

thats why you soundcheck their faces off

[D.o.S.]

thats why you soundcheck their faces off

+1.