behndy wrote:the concept of Male Disposability is interesting, i was definitely raised to keep that in mind and i've never even really thought about it at a societal level. very interesting. but i could only watch about 5 minutes of that because the way she chuckles at her own points every twelve seconds makes me want to punch puppies.
hurm. i guess a caveat to the way i think about hitting women is that if they're able to hurt you, protect yourself. but.... i don't hit women. if a grrL came at me with a knife or a gun, yeah. i would do whatever i needed to not get hurt. but maybe it's from being a big guy and somebody that has never really started fights, i don't really feel at risk when i've had grrLs be violent towards me. i've had partners slap me, which if it was a guy that slapped me it's a fight, i've had where friends that are grrLs have done stupid shit and 7 grrLs come to whoop that ass and i've held them off while they punched and scratched and kicked me.... i just don't think you throw a punch at a grrL unless you're in danger.
i'd like to think that if i was in a relationship with a woman that thought it was ok to try to beat my ass we'd figure that ut or end it pretty quick. i've never been with a grrL that took advantage of the double standard, so that's really hypothetical for me. but i have had grrLs that thought it was ok that if words got heated to throw a slap and i've told them that i don't do that, if we can't have arguments without trying to physically hurt each other we're done.
i guess for me it IS how i was raised and that i'm a bit bigger. i grew up with my brother that's four months younger than me and my brother that's four years younger than me, both guys that are not as tall as me but always played football and are big STRONG doods. my dad is also around 6 foot and a big guy, so being in a house with 4 guys at various stages of being large males and my mom being the main authority figure, not hitting or getting physical with woman got beat into me pretty early. and if i (i'm about 6'4 and 260 lbs) punched a woman (especially since i usually end up with grrLs that are around 5 ft - 5.5 ft), that would be..... messy. so yeah, double-standard. but there are reasons. of COURSE there are woman that have trained and if i got in a fight with (i've been in enough fights to be able to handle myself ok, but i'm not a brawler or someone that's put in the time to be mad skilled) or boxed or sparred with they could kick my ass. but the average grrL and the average (especially larger guy) punch each other in the face? it's going to end way worse for the female.
so i dunno what's right in a long term relationship that you don't end where the woman thinks it's ok to attack the guy. i'd like to think i'd just take a lick or two and then get out. if it's someone that you still want to be with i don't know how you figure that out. i just don't hit women. i'll walk away from shit that i wouldn't take off of a guy, but that's just how i am. might be silly in modern times but you have to be who you are.
and this fucker that if i ever find out somewhere? he threw punches at my friend's face first. she's boxed some so she said she got in 4 or 5 good punches after he punched her and tried to gouge out an eye, but i'm.... actually a bit afraid of being able to stop if i do run into him and start beating the shit out of him. i don't have a lot of friends. i'm very protective of the ones i do. and i ADORE this grrL.
Yes and no. I'm a big fucking guy, too. (like 6'2" or so, and 230-250 or so), but I have been in situations where a woman I cared a great deal about turned physically abusive to me, and I was young and dumb enough to put up with it. The problem is that we're all brought up to believe hitting a woman is wrong, regardless of what she is doing to you. And that is so fucking fucked up. A fucked up, pissed off woman, obsessed with vengeance of some perceived slight, right or wrong, is capable of extremely large amounts of damage, especially if the man she's abusing is conditioned to accept it without any sense of physical defense.
