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Things that seem so important to most people, don't even register to me.

For example, trust. I neither trust nor distrust anyone, I feel no need for either, nor do I understand really why it's something that's important to people.

Also, loyalty. And, it's not just that I don't feel - what most people I think would consider - loyalty, but the idea of it seems insane to me. I wouldn't back someone if they're wrong. I'll back someone to the ends of the Earth if they're right, but I can't understand why a person would do that regardless of whether they are wrong or right.

I don't miss people or things either. I anticipate seeing them again, so there is a positive emotion associated with ending separation, but I don't have the corresponding negative emotion of "missing".

I don't experience any group feelings. I have no sense of nationalism, or race, or anything like that (that doesn't mean I'm anti-anything, nor do I feel outside these groups, I just don't have any feelings of being or not being part of a group, just neutral I guess). Nor do I understand why a person would or should have those feelings. I don't get offended by insults against any group I am a part of. If a person insults America, it doesn't offend me or make me angry - if the person is right, then they're right, if they're wrong then they're wrong. The same thing goes for closer groups, like family. I love my family, but if someone were to insult my family it wouldn't cause me to feel anything, nor do I understand why it should.

I have an almost total disconnect between the ideas of good or bad and like or dislike. With anyone I have ever talked to, if they like something then they think it's good, and if they dislike something then they think it's bad. For me though, it goes in the opposite direction. If something is good then I like it, and if something is bad then I dislike it, although I can like something that is bad if it resonates with me personally, or dislike something that is good if it resonates in a negative way with me personally. The ideas of good or bad, and like or dislike for the most part exist in totally separate universes to me though, even though they tend to line up more often than not.

I can also easily change my personality. Take for example an idea like an addictive personality. My girlfriend and I both had them, and for a few years we were both heavy smokers. When we quit, she had to quit smoking by essentially fighting against that personality until she had quit, and it was a huge struggle, and that personality is still there. But for me - and language fails here - I just "edited" out those parts of my personality, and then I didn't have any need to smoke anymore.