The Doom Room: ILF Edition

[Ancient Astronaught]

i talk to people all - fucking - day

if i didn't have the job i have i wouldn't feel okay coming home doing nothing though, so it's all good.

last weeks big issue was that i didn't feel emotional attachments to the women i was sleeping with.

i'll be alright.

Your a dude, dude.

[live-i-evil]

brett your sig has a typo. it says Merucry Guitar

Oh, it's staying that way because people will cry when they realize they can't find a Mercury guitar.

[AngryGoldfish]

[new05002]

lol

[AngryGoldfish]

Oh wow, you don't see many mint condition Les Paul Custom Silverbursts in the UK for sale:

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/1980-Les-Paul ... 3cd06f020c

Anyone want to lend me a bunch of money?

[ridingeternity]

Oh wow, you don't see many mint condition Les Paul Custom Silverbursts in the UK for sale:

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/1980-Les-Paul ... 3cd06f020c

Anyone want to lend me a bunch of money?

Neither in the states!! Unless they are reissue...that one looks immaculate though.

That listing led to me discovering the Gibson Dark Fire...and fuck them altogether for not making the P90 neck, Humbucker Bridge config commercially available on a non-digital LP...thought I was looking at the potential "one"...

[samzadgan]

Oh wow, you don't see many mint condition Les Paul Custom Silverbursts in the UK for sale:

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/1980-Les-Paul ... 3cd06f020c

Anyone want to lend me a bunch of money?

Shit, that there is one of my dream guitars!...we should buy it as a syndicate...and then take turns to use it!

Also...i just finished catching up on all the pages i missed:

Deathmonkey: that is one hell of a good picture! She's both managed to make you look good and cool doing what you do, and also make her photography skills shine as well!

On the buying gear based on whats "cool"...one last point, it also depends on how old and how experienced you are as a guitarist. When i was young, back in the 80's a Super Strat was the cool thing to get and thats what i did and never got on with it...but in my older years as i've developed the confidence to like what i like and and know that what i like is the best regardless of what the trends are i have bought gear that may or may not be cool, but its what i want to look and sound like...so players confidence comes into it too.

...and that segways into the confidence and talking to people (or women)...I am extremely introverted, and always thought that it was bad thing and that i need come out of my shell and was told that i need to force myself to go out more and talk to people and that would help me. But end of the day, through various situations in life i worked that i'm not shy or anything like that, its just that i don't crave social interaction as much as some other people. A lot of the time i find talking to people as a bit of a chore. I have maybe 6 or 7 friends in my life, all life long friends, I think those relationships are better than having a 100 people and not having an in depth relationship with any of them

[AngryGoldfish]

Neither in the states!! Unless they are reissue...that one looks immaculate though.

That listing led to me discovering the Gibson Dark Fire...and fuck them altogether for not making the P90 neck, Humbucker Bridge config commercially available on a non-digital LP...thought I was looking at the potential "one"...

The humbucker bridge and P90 neck set-up is absolutely fantastic. I've had it in guitars before and I love it. You have to make sure you're matching outputs as closely as possible, but it's a wonderful pairing.

...and that segways into the confidence and talking to people (or women)...I am extremely introverted, and always thought that it was bad thing and that i need come out of my shell and was told that i need to force myself to go out more and talk to people and that would help me. But end of the day, through various situations in life i worked that i'm not shy or anything like that, its just that i don't crave social interaction as much as some other people. A lot of the time i find talking to people as a bit of a chore. I have maybe 6 or 7 friends in my life, all life long friends, I think those relationships are better than having a 100 people and not having an in depth relationship with any of them

My counsellor heartily encourages the inner depths of each individual person she meets. She doesn't have a blanket that comforts and covers everyone in the same way. Everyone she meets and helps is different, so her approach is different. It's something so many therapists and psychologists don't understand—or rather cannot cope with because they were never taught about the true variety in people and their hugely varying requirements and desires.

While you could be introverted, you might have a friend who is the opposite, and that clash might work beautifully. One of my closest friends is a real 'dude'. He is a brick wall that cannot be broken—though I do know his few weaknesses. Where he is outgoing and boisterous, I'm chilled and nervy. He respects this, and I respect his rambunctiousness and excitability. There is an unspoken understanding between us. This is what I've been learning recently: You may be surprised by who you end up befriending. There are surprising combinations of personalities out there, so don't rule out anyone.

[D.o.S.]

Friends aren't doom.

Unless you kill them.

[Droneforbreakfast]

I've got the game and the confidence, I just don't have the good looks to match. I should be a french model on the internet.

i have neither of those.

thing with me is not the lack of confidence or anything like that per-say, but i have a very hard time getting to people in a serious way because i'm very strange... and i usually start talking to people and they think i'm super wierd or something, so it's kind of hard to meet people who will call me a second time. i'm ok with that, really, i just find rather strange the way people react to me. people usually really like me once they get over the wierdness, though, that's gotta have some good in it.

Something similar happened to me. I ended a relationship for not your bog standard reasons and she found someone else two weeks later. I didn't think that was possible, but she was young and I was clueless. It totally dismantled everything about me. I had to restart from scratch, and I'm still learning and recovering now six years later. I was only with her for seven months. I became introverted and eventually hated going out for fear and paranoia. I was at a club house yesterday for people with mental health problems and I felt really awful. I don't want to go back there, but everyone is saying I need to get out more and learn to be normal.

And Skip, beautiful words.

that sounds terrible, i hope yourself back on track soon. there's plenty of good women out there, man, but a good woman is something you really don't find often in your life.

i know you're no fool and by this time of your life you've definitely, you don't need to tell me that, i know you've realized you can't let a situation like that get you down for much longer. sometimes you just need to say fuck it and learn how to live with yourself again. not worth it wasting your precious life wasting away in a mental dungeon like that because you've suffered a great trauma, but it takes time to get over, i definitely can relate to that.

I used to be ultra confident, and the girls in my friend circle all had a thing for me for a while, but after I ended up with one of them, some really crap shit went down her after a year and a half (which I don't really want to go in to), and it carried on for like a year and I was caning sleeping pills for a few months.

That started when I was living by myself so I got really withdrawn, but I did have a habit of getting really fucked up and I ended up sleeping with my housemate, and a few people I probably shouldn't have.

Now, even though I've been in a relationship for 2 years and live with my girlfriend, I can't find the confidence to even talk to acquaintances. Now my best mate is with that ex who fucked up my life, and I'm separated from my friends by quite a distance so I never see anyone now.

It's not hard to see where my confidence went...

man, that is also terrible. people can really have a terrible influence on you.












also, nothing like you guys, far far softer, but since we've all so fucked up personal lifes and relationships, give me some doom-worthy advice.

so...... i had a friend, and she was great friends with my best friend (my best friend is a she).

i started dating that said friend, am moving with her to England on the 26th, and now my bff won't talk to her or is avoiding to do so.

what the fuck would you say is going on? i hate these situations... feel free to make fun of the situation, but give me some advice on how to act. it'd really kill me if i lost contact with her because of something stupid like that.

[AngryGoldfish]

Thanks, Marlon. I've learned something in these last few years, despite having moments of intense loneliness and regret, I don't need or shouldn't rely on a woman. I like all those cheesy quotes people post on Facebook. You know, the ones that say things like "Find something that makes you happy, not someone." I believe that if you're not happy with yourself and being on your home then you're not going to be any happier with a woman or a man. You could be satisfied for a while, but ultimately, if that relationship ended, and it does happen, you'll be left with nothing but yourself, and if you don't love yourself then you're fucked.

And as regards your concerns, does that make you think your best friend in fact has feelings for you beyond the friendship?

[ridingeternity]

Just had a flash of recording inspiration and was wondering if anyone here had ever tried something like this, my band is going in to record our second album in June and the engineer mentioned he would like to record a clean amp at the same time as well. Now I know the benefits to running clean with distorted and am planning on implementing this into my live rig...but here was the mixing theory I came up with based on that and wanted to see if anyone had done something similar:

2 4x12 Cabs

Clean Cab A: 1xSM57 1xSennheiser MD421
Distortion Cab B: 1xSM57 1xSennheiser MD421

Mix:

SM57 A panned hard right
Senn A panned 70-100% left

SM57 B panned hard left
Senn B panned 70-100% right

Leaving some fat space in the middle for bass, kick and vox.

[Droneforbreakfast]

Thanks, Marlon. I've learned something in these last few years, despite having moments of intense loneliness and regret, I don't need or shouldn't rely on a woman. I like all those cheesy quotes people post on Facebook. You know, the ones that say things like "Find something that makes you happy, not someone." I believe that if you're not happy with yourself and being on your home then you're not going to be any happier with a woman or a man. You could be satisfied for a while, but ultimately, if that relationship ended, and it does happen, you'll be left with nothing but yourself, and if you don't love yourself then you're fucked.

And as regards your concerns, does that make you think your best friend in fact has feelings for you beyond the friendship?

she's always had boyfriends for as long as i know her, and we've never got it on or anything like that.

jealousy, no? talk to her yourself if you feel the need to resolve their problems. if it doesn't bother you leave it alone i guess


maybe you were your bff's "break glass in case of emergency" and now she's got no plan B

that just blew my mind, but no, i'm 99.99999999% sure that's not the case in this instance. my GF has left her messages but she won't reply, that's all i know for now. also she's not crazy enough to date someone like me, ever, i believe.






at first i thought she was just mad because we didn't tell her at first, but now i just don't know.

[AngryGoldfish]

Drama like this is something I can't quite understand. Why cannot humans be honest with each other and just say what we're thinking and feeling? It's the same shame we feel for our bodies. We can't we go swimming in our undies and not feel ashamed? Similarly why can't we tell our friends what a change in patterns has meant to us? It's strange.

[samzadgan]

While you could be introverted, you might have a friend who is the opposite, and that clash might work beautifully. One of my closest friends is a real 'dude'. He is a brick wall that cannot be broken—though I do know his few weaknesses. Where he is outgoing and boisterous, I'm chilled and nervy. He respects this, and I respect his rambunctiousness and excitability. There is an unspoken understanding between us. This is what I've been learning recently: You may be surprised by who you end up befriending. There are surprising combinations of personalities out there, so don't rule out anyone.

Yes...my oldest friend who is almost like a brother (been friends for 25 years, since our early teens)...this guy is a complete extravert, when he steps into a party he owns it...he has charm and women are just attracted to him...not for his looks mind you, we both know im the better looking one, but he has the personality. But like you say, we are two complete opposites but together however we have are as close as we are with our siblings, sometimes even closer.

also, nothing like you guys, far far softer, but since we've all so fucked up personal lifes and relationships, give me some doom-worthy advice.

so...... i had a friend, and she was great friends with my best friend (my best friend is a she).

i started dating that said friend, am moving with her to England on the 26th, and now my bff won't talk to her or is avoiding to do so.

what the fuck would you say is going on? i hate these situations... feel free to make fun of the situation, but give me some advice on how to act. it'd really kill me if i lost contact with her because of something stupid like that.

Dude, I think there may be some jealousy involved? no that your best friend wants to be in a relationship with you, but maybe she thinks she's losing you to her friend, especially since you moving away with her. But you know what, when it comes to women and how they react to stuff...i still dont get it...so i may be way off!