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So Saturday, I went to a wedding with my girlfriend, we had fun, but I started getting some suggestive texts from an unknown number. My gf and I joked about it and I ignored them. Now these kinda kept on amping up more and more throughout the day into the evening, describing, without going too much into detail, what he'd do to me, how I'd react, and what sounds I'd make. The whole time this person was messaging me, they refused to identify themselves, or listen to my repeated requests to stop. Well, I finally called a friend of mine and learned the owner of the number. It was a friend of my dad, as well as two of my aunts. My dad was born in 1955. So I sent this fellow a text, trying to explain why it was rude and that he must have known so when he was saying it, otherwise he would have identified himself, but that he needed to stop. Well he didn't take that well, tried to flip it on me. I managed to get through the calls with my aunts trying to eplain I wasn't going after a dude 40 years my senior, but I really am disgusted. I have no problem if a person thinks I'm attractive, I have no problem if a person is acting like they want to date or fool around (at least have tact and don't mind if I don't reciprocate), I do have a problem with the heavy handed, sexually explicit shit he was texting me just because, jesus christ, on top of the fact I am basically a stranger (dude hasn't seen me since I was 7, so extra fucking creepy), there has to be some ettiquette that dictates "don't tell a stranger you want to eat their ass" 3 hours after you first text them. It's fucking gross and rude to assume that people are going to be okay with that right off the bat. And especially to continue after they repeatedly shut you down. I know I'm talking in circles but it just pisses me off so much on so many fucking levels.
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That's crazy. At least with texts you got evidence ..
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BetterOffShred wrote:That's crazy. At least with texts you got evidence ..
I still have a flip phone and I deleted them as they came in because they made me uncomfortable, so it was honestly a bluff saying I'd tell my aunts. I may be able to hit up AT&T and recover them, but I'm not sure I want to see them again, especially now that I know who sent them.
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today has been one those days where there's just too many unexpected things happening and you don't know how to handle everything.
I just want to wake up tomorrow and start back again
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Dowi wrote:today has been one those days where there's just too many unexpected things happening and you don't know how to handle everything.
I just want to wake up tomorrow and start back again
Candles lit for you bro. :hug:
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BetterOffShred wrote:That's crazy. At least with texts you got evidence ..
I still have a flip phone and I deleted them as they came in because they made me uncomfortable, so it was honestly a bluff saying I'd tell my aunts. I may be able to hit up AT&T and recover them, but I'm not sure I want to see them again, especially now that I know who sent them.
@Trace - I have never been so 'elated by confusion' before. Your story brought me through so many jarring emotions. I'm sorry you went through that but I also find it so odd and funny. Again, that was probably the most I've been like (reading this thread) "what the fuck is even happening here?"
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Following the amazing wave of good things happening lately, yesterday I came back home and found out that the freezer door hadn't been closed properly, so there was just a huge block of ice/snow waiting for me, and I spent the evening defreezing and cleaning it and all the water around the kitchen. Fun fun fun.
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$harkToootth wrote:
TraceItalian wrote:
BetterOffShred wrote:That's crazy. At least with texts you got evidence ..
I still have a flip phone and I deleted them as they came in because they made me uncomfortable, so it was honestly a bluff saying I'd tell my aunts. I may be able to hit up AT&T and recover them, but I'm not sure I want to see them again, especially now that I know who sent them.
@Trace - I have never been so 'elated by confusion' before. Your story brought me through so many jarring emotions. I'm sorry you went through that but I also find it so odd and funny. Again, that was probably the most I've been like (reading this thread) "what the fuck is even happening here?"
It's weird for me, just cause I grew up Catholic and Old South. That kinda talk doesn't really roll with me and switches me between flustered and offended. All good at the heat of the moment, but I'd never text that shit to someone. It just felt a little bit more offensive given who was texting me, and the anonymity attempt.

Also, in the continuing fun with Reverb, I paid my accidental debit, but they're now claiming I owe them a $115. They say I got a paypal refund, which I didn't, then claimed I got a card refund, which doesn't make sense cause it's a paypal card. It's been 4 days since I last had contact, and I'm getting really tired of their stock answers after 2 months.
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TraceItalian wrote:
$harkToootth wrote:
TraceItalian wrote:
BetterOffShred wrote:That's crazy. At least with texts you got evidence ..
I still have a flip phone and I deleted them as they came in because they made me uncomfortable, so it was honestly a bluff saying I'd tell my aunts. I may be able to hit up AT&T and recover them, but I'm not sure I want to see them again, especially now that I know who sent them.
@Trace - I have never been so 'elated by confusion' before. Your story brought me through so many jarring emotions. I'm sorry you went through that but I also find it so odd and funny. Again, that was probably the most I've been like (reading this thread) "what the fuck is even happening here?"
It's weird for me, just cause I grew up Catholic and Old South. That kinda talk doesn't really roll with me and switches me between flustered and offended. All good at the heat of the moment, but I'd never text that shit to someone. It just felt a little bit more offensive given who was texting me, and the anonymity attempt.
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Conflicted over spilled hot tea about my fucked up personal life right now vs maintaining tact and decorum in "public" until everything is concluded and I can't accidentally compromise my financial well being or living situation.
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My cat is dying, slowly. i can't do anything about it. She's old (around 17/18), so invasive and prolonged treatment (chemo, basically), besides being far too prohibitively expensive, is out. All that suffering for what amounts to additional minutes of life, right at the end when it's the worst. Saw my mom go through it, she passed just last year.

She's an awesome cat. I've at times jokingly said she's my best friend, but really it's basically true. yeah she can't talk, but she's a good hanging buddy. I like to snuggle with her, since i'm really the only one in the family that really does.

It just really fucking sucks feeling so fucking powerless. She's deteriorated so much over the past year, it really hurts to see.

Ima just keep her snuggled and warm as much as i can this winter. She won't likely see the other side of it.
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awwwwww. it's really hard watching an elderly cat decline. my ex's cat passed at 17, and by the time she went she was blind, walking very slowly, and would barely eat. she was still full of love right to the end, though. when it's time you should be able to get a mobile vet who'll come to your house, which was much easier on everyone than having to put her in the carrier and drive to the office which she HATED. just love her up as long as you can, and take lots of photos for later.

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dubkitty wrote:awwwwww. it's really hard watching an elderly cat decline. my ex's cat passed at 17, and by the time she went she was blind, walking very slowly, and would barely eat. she was still full of love right to the end, though. when it's time you should be able to get a mobile vet who'll come to your house, which was much easier on everyone than having to put her in the carrier and drive to the office which she HATED. just love her up as long as you can, and take lots of photos for later.

my Lulu is absolutely my best friend...nobody has ever loved me so unconditionally other than my mom.
Thanks dub. Appreciate the response and advice.
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:hug: :hug: :hug:
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One of my teeth died. So, now I get to schedule a last minute flight home from Korea because the dentistry here is barbaric.
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Bought a sh-101 and the seller took the money and ran :cry:

Reverb moped out of helping, now in the paypal process.
I've found his website and youtube and all that. I just hate having to exhume effort just to socially expose/shame someone.

the dude lives like 30mins from where I grew up, too which is sad.
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