The Confessions Thread

[Achtane]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eaw80cwlnRw[/youtube]
"Adorn" by Miguel fuckin' owns.
Those FL Studio synth pads. That little midi trumpet thing.
Sounds like it coulda been a track in a PS1 side-scroller.

[snipelfritz]

I am such a pussy when it comes to girls. A week ago when I was in the mountains, a girl in our group smiled at me really lovely, and I was like "she must not be smiling at me" and instantly looked away. Wooo fucking insecurity. I'm a good looking guy even. And my fears sorta stem from the "I don't want to seem cocky", but I kinda took it to the extreme and sorta bail out on every mother fucking subject, including eye contact; except spirituality and music. I was like that when 10yo, I totally remember it; but holy damn I don't wanna be like that, and I notice the stupid bs more and more, and one day I'll be lucid at the time of action and do what I want to, not what I conditioned myself to do. Fk that shit.

And man.. I'm kinda stalking her fb profile and she's got AMAZING musical taste, is green and progressive and likes science pages.
She likes, fking Lacuna Coil AND Phaleh. MARREE MEE PRETTY EYES +_+

Eh. I need to scout things out a bit. Good thing I know a lot of people who know her. Even one blabber mouth that might tell her that I'm just introverted and socially retarded at times. Might work in my favor


Dat smile tho.. made me melt inside

Dude, add her on Facebook, then message her and be like "Hey, you're cool. You want to get coffee some time?"

I know it sounds insane, but I've actually learned its a totally reasonable way to go about social interaction and can end in you getting laid.

[Disarm D'arcy]

I am such a pussy when it comes to girls.

Don't beat yourself over it. I now understand that the people who I've been in a relationship with (one that was pleasing that is) liked me because I was awkward.

[alexa.]

I am such a pussy when it comes to girls.

Don't beat yourself over it. I now understand that the people who I've been in a relationship with (one that was pleasing that is) liked me because I was awkward.

Yeye, but guess you missed the point of my post.
I'm happy to have my issues in the limelight cuz now I can deal with them. I feel like I'm growing out of the whole experience. Even if she doesn't like me, I've got a valuable lesson for life.

[KaosCill8r]

I am such a pussy when it comes to girls.

Don't beat yourself over it. I now understand that the people who I've been in a relationship with (one that was pleasing that is) liked me because I was awkward.

Yeye, but guess you missed the point of my post.
I'm happy to have my issues in the limelight cuz now I can deal with them. I feel like I'm growing out of the whole experience. Even if she doesn't like me, I've got a valuable lesson for life.

Here's some insight in to it dudes. Don't overthink it when it comes to girls. Just move in and try your luck. Don't be afraid of rejection and don't worry too much about embarrassment. It doesn't hurt it it doesn't last long either. Treat it like a door to door salesman. What I mean by that is for every door that gets slammed in their face means that they are much closer to a sale.
I think about all the missed opportunities I could of had but I was shy and was afraid of rejection and embarrassment. So just go for it

[tabbycat]

I am such a pussy when it comes to girls.

Don't beat yourself over it. I now understand that the people who I've been in a relationship with (one that was pleasing that is) liked me because I was awkward.

Yeye, but guess you missed the point of my post.
I'm happy to have my issues in the limelight cuz now I can deal with them. I feel like I'm growing out of the whole experience. Even if she doesn't like me, I've got a valuable lesson for life.

Here's some insight in to it dudes. Don't overthink it when it comes to girls. Just move in and try your luck. Don't be afraid of rejection and don't worry too much about embarrassment. It doesn't hurt it it doesn't last long either. Treat it like a door to door salesman. What I mean by that is for every door that gets slammed in their face means that they are much closer to a sale.
I think about all the missed opportunities I could of had but I was shy and was afraid of rejection and embarrassment. So just go for it

generally speaking, sex is massively overrated as an actual physical experience and massively underrated as a motivation in human behaviour.

i totally sympathise with your predicament re the shyness. i went through exactly the same thing when i was younger. and it got in the way of really connecting with people. i suppose it's the hormones but it is fairly impossible to really connect when your brain is constantly looping all possible avenues of thought back to the same end. natural, but unhelpful sometimes.

i know this may sound funny but, if you find yourself really edgy and awkward and emotionally all over the place around those you want to impress, maybe try 'relieving the biological pressure' (read between the lines) prior to meeting up with anyone you are thinking about getting close to. that way your hormones will probably be off-duty for a few hours and you can actually talk like people are supposed to talk when they really want to get to know each other. i know it might seem extreme but it makes biological sense. and don't meet them drunk either. same thing. clear head, clear agenda.

also, don't forget to factor into your current feelings of frustration that, as depressing or frustrating as you may think it is never getting the girl to bed when you think you could have, it's equally (if not more) depressing when you pair up with someone you have no real connection with (other than you both had an itch you wanted to scratch at the same time) and then wake up to guilt, awkwardness, embarrassment, tears, avoiding phone calls, knocking on your door, bad feeling among friends (even losing friends), feeling you are letting someone down if you let them down, or feeling you are being let down if you are being let down, (before you even begin to consider the pregnancy thing), etc, etc, etc.
never underestimate how massively corrosive and numbing that kind of stuff can be to the soul too. not everyone who fucks spontaneously wakes up dancing about it in the morning. apart from in john hughes films.

so maybe a case of be careful what you wish for. and what you regret. the lawrence quote in my sig i always think is a wise and noble thing to aim for. have never been in a situaion in my life where i didn't think it applied.
in a way, the best thing you can hope for is to end up friends, no matter what. if that comes with sex, cool. if it doesn't, so what. really.
a friendship that lasts years is worth more than a hundred fucks followed by lame relationships that burn out within a few months. sometimes difficult to appreciate that when you feel you are eternally stuck in the friend zone, but it's true.
was going to be a bit more candid about my personal history here but decided against it. far too much information already. but here are a couple of nice quotes that fit in with what i've learned about relationships in my time.

and best of luck to you. alexa.

“a woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages; first an acquantaince, next a mistress, and only then a friend" - anton chekov (from 'the three sisters')

and from orson wells' superb 'citizen kane' (which everyone should watch at least once in their lives);

BERNSTEIN
Who's a busy man? Me? I'm Chairman of the Board. I got nothing
but time. What do you want to know?

THOMPSON
Well, Mr. Bernstein. We thought maybe, if we can find out what he
meant by his last words as he was dying.

BERNSTEIN
That Rosebud, huh? Maybe, some girl? There were a lot of them
back in the early days.

THOMPSON
It's hardly likely, Mr. Bernstein. Mr. Kane could have met some
girl casually and then fifty years later on his deathbed
remembered...

BERNSTEIN
Well, you are pretty young, Mr., Mr. Thompson. A fellow will
remember a lot of things you wouldn't think he'd remember.
You take me. One day, back in eighteen-ninety-six, I was crossing
over to Jersey on a ferry and as we pulled out there was another
ferry pulling in and on it there was a girl waiting to get off. A
white dress she had on, she was carrying a white parasol. I only
saw her for one second. She didn't see me at all.
But I'll bet a month hasn't gone by since that I haven't thought of that girl.

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[alexa.]

Heheheh, thanks for the advice all

Well, I'm pretty introverted and I'm not really sexually motivated. I'm basically asexual unless you bring right pheromones under my nose, or when it's spring time. Looks don't talk to me that way. But the thing is, my thoughts that roll in the background are the thing that buzzes me around mostly. I feel like meditating would be a great idea to calm my, sometimes overactive, mind. I just want to ask her out, have a nice conversation and go further from there. I'm feeling positively excited about the whole thing and I've seen pretty girls around but I've never reacted this way to one. Guess I just wanna get to know me more. Perhaps I don't even like her. Who knows.. we'll see.

And really, I've had some shallow experiences, they just end up as they started.. shallow. I can just jerk off then. Much less emotional risk there
Also, I've said this before and I will say it again, music > sex.

[Inconuucl]

A lot of my early relationships have never took flight because the other people could not stand me droning and making noise for hours on end, true story.

When I first met my wife and asked her what music she listened to, she linked me to Melt Banana, and that was that. 8D

[UglyCasanova]

Promised my gf I'd go with her to a dog show tomorrow morning, but I've been watching the vampire diaries with her for three hours now in hopes of her being too tired to go tomorrow morning. It's 3:10am and I'm not sure my plan will work. I'm afraid I just wasted three hours of my life, that I'm still going to a dog show and that I now hate a fictional character in a teenage vampire soap, named Damon.

[neonblack]

A lot of my early relationships have never took flight because the other people could not stand me droning and making noise for hours on end, true story.

When I first met my wife and asked her what music she listened to, she linked me to Melt Banana, and that was that. 8D

My wife and I bonded over music when we first met too. I still had my Bonnaroo wristband on and we started talking about bands we liked and somehow the Blood Brothers came up. That's when I knew she was the one.

[Twangasaurus]

Promised my gf I'd go with her to a dog show tomorrow morning, but I've been watching the vampire diaries with her for three hours now in hopes of her being too tired to go tomorrow morning. It's 3:10am and I'm not sure my plan will work. I'm afraid I just wasted three hours of my life, that I'm still going to a dog show and that I now hate a fictional character in a teenage vampire soap, named Damon.

I'm... I'm sorry.

[snipelfritz]

That feeling when your leg is asleep and you start to get it not really asleep but it feels weird. It's kind of interesting but then weird...I dunno...its a mixture of feels.

[Disarm D'arcy]

Promised my gf I'd go with her to a dog show tomorrow morning, but I've been watching the vampire diaries with her for three hours now in hopes of her being too tired to go tomorrow morning. It's 3:10am and I'm not sure my plan will work. I'm afraid I just wasted three hours of my life, that I'm still going to a dog show and that I now hate a fictional character in a teenage vampire soap, named Damon.

The rational thing to do is to tell her you don't want to go.

The smart thing to do is too lock yourself in the toilet and pretend you have violent acid diarrhea.

[snipelfritz]

You could've just gotten drunk while watching the vamp dramz, then get drunk at the dog show.

Yeh, booze is pretty cool.

[D.o.S.]

and somehow the Blood Brothers came up.