Jesus Was a Robot wrote:My daughters (I have 3) aren't as interested in making noise like you folks, but I guess I don't have a ton of fun toys for them to play with. All I have it pedals and instruments. My oldest wanted to play the guitar, I bought here one, she never touched it. LOL. I would not get her lessons unless she actually showed interest and it didn't pan out. Not sure if I did that one wrong. Seems to be the way parenting works though. Second guessing your choices. My middle daughter has a keyboard and I actually got her a piano too. She barely touches either. LOL!! I made her a scales chart, got her tons of books (admittedly more effort than my oldest...that makes me feel bad. ), anyway, she showed interest at first, then stopped. I offered to get her lessons, she wasn't really into it. Sooooooo...hmmmm....
My youngest shows the most interest. She's five and she likes to turn my pedal knobs. She used to come downstairs with me (basement) when I'd play my bass. She doesn't do it so much anymore. It makes me sad, but I let my kids do what makes then happy. If they said "dad I want to play this or that", I try and do it assuming I could afford to.
I try to be the best dad I can. I love my girls more than anything in this world and would do anything for them.
I'll tell you something special I started for my oldest 8 years ago.
My wife and I had just had our second daughter (Addison) and I was scared my oldest (Ashlee) would feel left out by the fact that she was no longer the baby. So, when Ashlee was 4, I decided to start a special evening dedicated to just hanging out with her. We call it "camp out night" and in the beginning we actually slept in a tent in my front room, but it was her little princess tent. haha. Now Ashlee is 12 and her sister Addison is 8 (Aaliyah is 5) and we all camp out together. Every Friday night I've been camping out with my girls for the last 8 years. There is an occasional cancellation, but they are few and far between. It's a priority to me and it makes me feel closer to my girls. They look forward to it all week and ask me about it all week. Ashlee had to make a decision when Addison got a little older to let her be included, but other than that, it still has the same theme. We all sleep on the floor or in the bed together, watch a movie and go to sleep.
I get sad when I think about my daughters grown up and losing that night. Ashlee is going to be 13 this year. I'm not sure how much longer she will be interested. She's a cool kid though, so who knows. I may have a few years left with that special time with my girls, but I may not either.
I'll say this. Being a dad is the best thing I've ever done with my life.
Dude, you were probably right on the lessons thing, I had a student once that I finally asked his mom to stop paying money for him to learn, it was very obvious he never touched the instrument from the time he left the lesson until the next one. If they aren't gravitating towards it already it's a tough road, maybe she will come back to it when she is older.
I didn't know you had a teenaged daughter, we should start a support group, my daughter is 14 so sometimes we are best buds and sometimes everything i do is stupid and wrong and embarrassing.